Time Traveling and Vicarious Trauma

Just watching the news about the Las Vegas Massacre, knowing someone at the  event that was killed or injured will cause you to have trepidation and anxiety about attending out door events. We have been exposed to the traumatic stress of the mass shooting in Las Vegas...

Teen Suicide

There have been recent newspaper articles about teen suicide in our community and I want to reach out to parents and make you aware of these signs of depression in your own children so that you may get them the help they need in time. Can you recognize the signs of...

Should I Have My Child Tested Privately?

An IEE is an independent educational evaluation done by a professional psychologist who does not work for your child’s school. A parent may want their child tested independently to get an objective professional assessment of their child’s achievement, intelligence,...

The Stages of Change

According to the research of James O. Prochaska, Ph.D. & Carlo C. DiClemente, Ph.D. there are 6 stages of change. Their research helped many Americans quit smoking, recognizing that change is a process that has an emotional component, not just a...

Recommended Reading

For Cognitive Behavior Therapy If you are interested in doing CBT on your own, there is an excellent resource in Dennis Greenberger and Christine Padesky’s work book, Mind Over Mood, Second Edition: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think.  For Parent...

What If My Partner Won’t Come To Therapy?

Often prospective clients call to say that their partner refuses to come to couples therapy and want advice about what to do. I suggest that they start the process of therapy individually. The first stage of therapy is assessment. So, you would come in and present the...

Effective Communication for Couples

Some things are worth arguing about! Arguing is a common and sometimes effective form of communication if the negativity between the individuals is managed. Constant arguing is tiresome and exhausting, especially when it is unproductive and neither gets their point...

Is Your Sexual Life Less Than Satisfying?

When couples are in conflict, sex is usually the first thing to go; and, by the way, it is the last thing to return as you begin the process of repair. Couples have similar complaints in the bedroom. Sex is too infrequent, not initiated by their partner, one’s...

Repairs After a Fight

Researchers have found that couples who are happily married do argue.  However, if their arguments become mean spirited, they spontaneously make repairs.  Dr. Kovner will teach you how to make repairs after a marital fight which can strengthen the bond of the...

Having Unpleasant Fights?

Has your fighting become unpleasant?  One piece of advice is that even happily married couples argue. Some things are worth arguing for.  However, if you or your partner say things that you or they later regret, you argue when under the influence which could lead to a...

When Your Dreams Are In Conflict

Maybe you always wanted to go back to college, but you had to sacrifice to raise the children or support the family business.  You always wanted to travel but your partner prefers to visit family.  Your dreams are in conflict and you feel something is missing. Perhaps...

The Attack – Defend Mode

Couples often come to therapy in the first of four stages of the marital argument.   In couples therapy, the four stages of marital therapy parallel the four stages of the marital argument. In the first stage, the couple is in the Attack and Defend stage.  In this...

Managing Conflict: Soft vs. Harsh Startup

Many couples make a mistake by beginning a conversation with a Harsh Startup that makes an accusation that immediately provokes conflict, like “Why did you come home so late? Where were you?” When you start a conversation with an anxious or angry tone, a...