Me Too!!

Dr. Christine Margaret Blasey Ford is an American hero and survivor of an alleged sexual assault by Judge Brett Kavanaugh. Her courage emboldens me to say to you reading this post, that I too, was sexually assaulted as a 7 year boy in Brooklyn, New York. I was in the...

Suicidal Ideation? Are You At Risk For Harming Yourself?

According the most recent Centers For Disease Control (CDC) report, Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States. It occurs at a rate more than double that of homicide. The most common method used is firearms. Among people ages 15 to 34, suicide is...

Suicide In Children and Teens

If you’re in a crisis now, do not hesitate to call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255) To chat online with a counselor, click here: http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/GetHelp/LifelineChat.aspx The National Suicide Prevention...

Does my child have a learning disability?

When your child’s response to intervention in school is not progressing, then something more serious is going on. It may begin in the first two years of life. Your child may experience chronic ear infections that are not immediately noticeable. Colic may be a...

Time Traveling and Vicarious Trauma

Are You A “Time  Traveler?” Clients that are experiencing PTSD are “Time Travelers.” They look back in time at the stressful event, causing depressing symptoms and look forward in time to anticipate future events, causing anxiety. As a result,...

Teen Suicide

If your Teenager is in a crisis now, do not hesitate to call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255) To chat online with a counselor, click here: http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/GetHelp/LifelineChat.aspx The National Suicide Prevention...

Should I Have My Child Tested Privately?

An IEE is an independent educational evaluation done by a professional psychologist who does not work for your child’s school. A parent may want their child tested independently to get an objective professional assessment of their child’s achievement, intelligence,...

The Stages of Change

According to the research of James O. Prochaska, Ph.D. & Carlo C. DiClemente, Ph.D. there are 6 stages of change. Their research helped many Americans quit smoking, recognizing that change is a process that has an emotional component, not just a...

Recommended Reading

For Cognitive Behavior Therapy If you are interested in doing CBT on your own, there is an excellent resource in Dennis Greenberger and Christine Padesky’s work book, Mind Over Mood, Second Edition: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think.  For Parent...

What If My Partner Won’t Come To Therapy?

Often prospective clients call to say that their partner refuses to come to couples therapy and want advice about what to do. I suggest that they start the process of therapy individually. The first stage of therapy is assessment. So, you would come in and present the...

Effective Communication for Couples

Some things are worth arguing about! Arguing is a common and sometimes effective form of communication if the negativity between the individuals is managed. Constant arguing is tiresome and exhausting, especially when it is unproductive and neither gets their point...

Is Your Sexual Life Less Than Satisfying?

Often, when couples are in conflict over non-sexual issues, sex is usually the first thing to go; and, by the way, it is the last thing to return as you begin the process of repair. Couples frequently complain that sex is too infrequent, seldom initiated by their...

Repairs After a Fight

Researchers have found that couples who are happily married do argue.  However, if their arguments become mean spirited, they spontaneously make repairs.  Dr. Kovner will teach you how to make repairs after a marital fight which can strengthen the bond of the...

Having Unpleasant Fights?

Has your fighting become unpleasant? One piece of advice is that even happily married couples argue. Some things are worth fighting for. However, if you or your partner say things that you or they later regret, or you argue when under the influence which could lead to...

When Your Dreams Are In Conflict

Maybe you always wanted to go back to college, but you had to sacrifice to raise the children or support the family business. You always wanted to travel but your partner prefers to visit family. Your dreams are in conflict and you feel something is missing. Perhaps...

Stages of the Marital Argument

Couples often come to therapy in the first of four stages of the marital argument.   In couples therapy, the four stages of marital therapy parallel the four stages of the marital argument. In the first stage, the couple is in the Attack and Defend stage. Here,...

Managing Conflict: Soft vs. Harsh Startup

Many couples make a mistake by beginning a conversation with a Harsh Startup that makes an accusation that immediately provokes conflict, like “Why did you come home so late? Where were you?” When you start a conversation with an anxious or angry tone, a...