Some things are worth arguing about!
Arguing is a common and sometimes effective form of communication if the negativity between the individuals is managed. Constant arguing is tiresome and exhausting, especially when it is unproductive and neither gets their point across. So why do couples do it? I think their aim is to get the other to “agree.” Some will argue passionately and even angrily. Others may argue aggressively and disrespectfully in a condescending fashion. When we argue we are trying to defeat the other person and have them yield their point of view. The tactics we use for persuasion can cause conflict and the failure to manage negativity can result in extreme marital distress.
In a few sessions with me, couples can learn how to manage this kind of negativity and develop the skills to argue constructively.