Often, when couples are in conflict over non-sexual issues, sex is usually the first thing to go; and, by the way, it is the last thing to return as you begin the process of repair. Couples frequently complain that sex is too infrequent, seldom initiated by their partner, one’s drive is much higher than the other, there is not enough foreplay, or they are having problems which they never speak about due to guilt and shame. Sexual shame from a variety of sources can take a toll on our belief systems. For example, shame over our body image, expectations about our orgasmic and ejaculatory functions, fear and judgment from very strict and conservative and/or religious upbringings do affect our ability to be intimate as adults. Pain during sex can be an issue as well as coercion, sexual deviancy, pornography, and addiction.
Let Dr. Kovner assist you in making your love life happy and satisfying again by learning how to talk about these issues without becoming negative. Call (770) 729-0123