When Your Dreams Are In Conflict

Maybe you always wanted to go back to college, but you had to sacrifice to raise the children or support the family business. You always wanted to travel but your partner prefers to visit family. Your dreams are in conflict and you feel something is missing. Perhaps...

Stages of the Marital Argument

Couples often come to therapy in the first of four stages of the marital argument.   In couples therapy, the four stages of marital therapy parallel the four stages of the marital argument. In the first stage, the couple is in the Attack and Defend stage. Here,...

Managing Conflict: Soft vs. Harsh Startup

Many couples make a mistake by beginning a conversation with a Harsh Startup that makes an accusation that immediately provokes conflict, like “Why did you come home so late? Where were you?” When you start a conversation with an anxious or angry tone, a...